For many years, I was stuck in the same place in my life. I didn’t realize how bad it was until I honestly got “unstuck”. I was not moving forward, not living in the present moment, merely existing. That was all. The amount of physical and mental pain I was in was enough to bring a grown man to his knees. The diseases were spiraling out of control and I knew there were only two options left for me at that point. As I sat on my couch and cried hot tears, I asked God to help me. This was the day I started moving forward. Some people call it rock bottom. I was there.
So my friends…let’s move forward. I bet you honestly are thinking “How in the hell does she expect me to do this?” or “If it were only that easy?” Let me assure you that after my skin was peeling off, pints of my blood continuously being taken for life, pain radiating from the base of my neck to my spine and all 18 triggers points for fibromyalgia had been activated, and my hip had started giving out so that I couldn’t walk without crying, NO this SHIT is not easy. There. I said it. But here is the kicker. You have it in you to do this.
I do not know what your pain or block looks like versus mine, but the truth is, it doesn’t matter. Pain is pain. Whether it is physical, mental or spiritual. Anxiety, depression and more can be dealt with. But my secret. Ohhh my secret to dealing with this, is to take tiny baby steps every single day. I am about to show you how.
Why You Are Not Moving Forward (and what to do about it):
- Acknowledge where you are right now. Some part of me had resisted until that very day when I knew I couldn’t hold on one moment longer where I was. I was at the end of my rope so to speak, but I had tied a knot. I was hanging there. Just dangling. I am not sure what I was waiting for, but I realized I had nowhere to go but up.
- Mobilize forces. Forces can be the forces within you. It can be spiritual, or even real people around you. Many feel alone at this point in their lives no matter who is still around when we take our first shaky breaths and look around to see what’s left. Don’t forget to look within. That’s where the real power is. If you are lucky enough to have family, reach out. If you need a support group, reach there. Think of 3 outside resources and jot them down. Call your therapist, doctor, friend, or partner to help.
- Breathe deeply. Each day is a new beginning. Start new practices. I went to yoga, but very slowly at first. I also tried to sit in stillness and focus on the breath, not the physical pain. This is the beginning of meditation and it helps focus your thoughts for a few seconds away from the pain body. It is a huge step even though it looks like all you are doing is sitting. Focus on the spaces between the pain. Not the pain itself.
- Eat differently. I had not been taking care of my physical body during this time. I barely ate as I had autoimmune and was having reactions with food. I made a plan. A good plan. A hard plan, but one with steps to follow. Each day, I did one task that helped me. I made sure the right foods were in front of me when I went to the fridge. My husband made sure there were leftovers in containers that I could eat. I knew that in order to stop the pain, I had to eliminate my food triggers. That process was slow, but I made it.
- Begin with gratitude. This part was harder at first, but over time, has gotten easier. I wake up and say thank you as each foot hits the floor. Every night, before bed, I journal about the good in my life right now. I close my eyes, breathe deeply and think about all the things that are wonderful, good and pure in my life. There are many things to be thankful for.
- Make a good plan and be consistent! I developed steps that were thought driven to build me up and others like me. I looked at the 4 areas of my life that needed baby steps, and each day I made myself do one thing to propel me up the rope, out of the hole. I got the hardest thing over with first. Moving again. Yup. Getting up off the couch and moving was the number one hardest thing, so I started there with my fitness. I moved on to my nutrition because I knew that was key to unlocking the flares I was having and eliminated sugar, which wrecks havoc on your neurotransmitters, from my life as best I could. Next, I took a look at creating balance in my life and moving away from feeling stressed all the time. Part of my anxiety was caused by, you guessed it, food. When I removed the gluten and sugar triggers, my life started to get back on track. This is a huge key to unlocking autoimmune diseases from trapping you in that cycle of pain. Lastly, I looked at self-care and how I was handling things. I had not been doing so well, it was time to devote some time to me.
All of this I made into manageable chunks and then from this, I climbed out. I completed my yoga teacher training after 200 hours. Something I would not have thought possible before. I completed my certification in sports nutrition and understood what I needed to do to help others. I put my program and steps into an online course. I call it 4 Weeks to Wellness, and it is the start of moving forward for those of you who need a plan. I believe in you. You can do this!
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