As the year winds down, why do we always think about the entire year? This is the first time I can remember people talking about the last 10 years as much as they have been recently.
I almost feel like all the other years are jealous of this year. 2020. It even feels different to write it out, right? I mean it will take us all of January to get used to that anyway.
Personally speaking, it’s been a humbling decade. A decade where I have seen my body do miraculous things. Things the doctors said I wouldn’t be able to do if you remember (or have been with me) since I started writing here, in this place, since 2011. Like this weird, random look into my mind back then. >> At least I have my ears << Or this one when they thought I had a really interesting other disease, but thankfully turned out they were wrong and guessing as they were prone to do back then, at my widespread pain >> Spondylo-what? << BTW, all the months are on the side of the blog if you need anything.
Not everyone can look back on their last 10 years like I can, and reading this I think…man. I was in some serious pain and I can even see it in my writing. As the years progressed, my writing and thankfully, titles, seemed to flow better and I started thinking about ways I could make it a learning lesson and then end with tips, not just quotes.
Looking back on a decade can feel scary to some.
It can feel like we need to BE some where else. It can feel like we SHOULD have done more or something OTHER than we did accomplish. I am here to tell you that when we ponder over what the past brought us, we are losing precious seconds in this moment. The present.
Sometimes it can feel like we need to COMPARE ourselves to our friends, neighbors, or people we really don’t even like but are always posting how great their lives are on fakebook. I encourage you to unfollow if you would not want them in your circle in real life. Delete. Hide. What have you…but make sure you feel supported, not guilty.
Looking back can make you sad.
To some people, looking back poses questions like what if I had done this, would something different have happened? And though it pains me to say it, no. It was as it was supposed to be because the truth is you really did the best you could with the information you had at the time. And damn. That lesson hurts.
Losing people hurts. I want to reach out to you, dear reader, and tell you that you really did the best you could and please stop that voice. If you lost someone and are feeling guilty, like you could have saved them, you are losing precious time that they would not want you to lose. It took me years, maybe even longer. Hell, probably 10 years myself, to learn that lesson. And that is okay. We all heal on our own schedule, but I am just wanting you to know you aren’t alone.
Nostalgia is a bitch. Yes I am cussing in this one. I don’t normally, but my inner voice is ready for a change. Nostalgia can rise up when you open a drawer in the kitchen and that little note pops out. My Club recently saw my eyes change for a second, as many of you might notice, when I do my live video lessons. I am human and I feel very deeply. Sadness has it’s time and place, but I have taken this entire year to come to terms with the fact that my girls are almost grown (one thinks she is and I guess by age, 18 is “grown”). So the tiny note in my book, or in the drawer that is written in small, not so neat, handwriting, can sneak up on you from time to time. I am learning how to look at it, feel the love from it, and then NOT go back there but a second so I have all the time in this moment to help with this year’s new challenges like college. Dorm stuff. Boy problems or whatever.
Looking back can make you wish for the “you” then.
Listen, I get it. I was 35 years old. My skin did different things back then. It had a more youthful glow. I didn’t have certain “sparkly” colors. But there are things that me did not know. That me gave way too many “F’s” about certain things that this me just doesn’t have time to give. Like the fact that I was told when I first started doing live chats that I had to look all put together and wear make-up and do my hair and be completely ready. I remember this “mentor” going on a live once and when something real happened, the mask stayed on…and too many people believed it. I decided right then and there I was going to do a live after cleaning out my shed, with spider webs in my hair, and sweat running down my face. Did I get made fun of? Yes. But not to my face. One follower of the FB fan page from a different country shared my live with a mean saying…I have Google translate so I answered her and she never shared again. Win-win. I came out from the “mold” and go on with crazy hair. I even went on with my hair in a towel for a self-care lesson. I think I had a face mask on as well.
The parts of us we are afraid to show others are the parts of us that endear us to others. Don’t be afraid of who you are now.
What can embracing the NOW do for you?
You can start to put strategies in place that can help you achieve your goals faster.
Step one, get a journal. Here are a few reasons why:
- How Journaling Healed my Life
- 7 Ways Satring a Daily Journal Practice will Change Your Life
- 3 Reasons to Journal
Step two, decide what your goals are for this year, not a resolution. Here’s why:
- Life Goals…5 Steps to create them
- Why resolutions are NOT the way to go…(and what to do)
- Procrastination and the dreaded resolutions…3 tips to overcome
Step 3, and lastly, change from being Reactive…to PROactive. << that exlains why.
The only person who can honestly make you happy is yourself. So for this new year, write out a list of things you want to do, start with 20 if you want, why not? Let the list sit. Go back to the list and circle the 3 things that are a top priority. Then go to your journal or planner and write out 3 action steps under those goals. IF you don’t think you can do it without support, write out people who can support you. If you do NOT have any supportive people in your life, working on bettering themselves, working on being proactive instead of reactive, working on getting rid of negativity, I do have people for you. I once didn’t have that kind of help in the “support” groups years ago for my diseases, so I created what I wanted to see in my life. I would be honored to guide you through the steps above as well as much, much more.
Please come join us in the Head|Heart|Health Club, where in 2020 you will get journaling to manifest 2.0 (I’m re-booting it), a simple, and very easy yoga poses section that take less than 5 mintues a day to start using and have chair options, as well as a group for accountability and monthly master classes to help guide you live, that are available for replay as many times as you need them. You also get guided meditations and more. I understand that life happens, and unlike joining a gym, this is an online subscription service for your soul, that comes right to your house if you are someone who wants to learn privately. You can leave at any time, no 30 day, in writing things like some clubs, and it’s less than $.90 a day.
Much love to you as you start this new year!